Looking for Online Marriage Counseling? Get the low-down here.

In the process of designing Power of Two Online we looked and looked and looked at what options are currently available for Online Marriage Counseling. Instead of re-inventing the wheel, we'd like to share with you what we've learned.

There are four types of online help available for your marriage -- CD's and DVD's, e-books, live counselors, and Power of Two Online.

CD's and DVD's as Online Marriage Counseling

It sounds a bit strange that many of the folks advertising online marriage counseling are actually selling box sets of CD's or DVD's. Some come with a workbook, or an online assessement, or an e-mail tips series. Most of these programs eventually explain that they are an alternative to marriage counseling as opposed to an online program per se.

CD's are great if you really are someone who will listen to 5, 10, or even 20 hours of someone lecturing to you about marriage. Likewise, while some of the DVD's we reviewed were pretty well made, in the end, our team was left, well, to put it bluntly, bored. That's because no matter how entertaining someone is, after 4 hours of talking heads, it's hard to stay excited about anything!

Which gets to what we at Power of Two see as the biggest downside of using a CD or DVD based program to improve your marriage. None of these programs will improve your marriage if you don't watch or listen to them. Here's the second problem, they are expensive-most cost hundreds of dollars just to take a peek. Yes, most offer a money back guarantee, but how many people really return all those DVD's to their original packaging and then mail them back in "new" condition?

Example CD/DVD programs:

Program nameWhat you getWhat it costs
Marriage Fitness (www.marriagemax.com) 15 CD's, 7 tele-seminars, a workbook,
some e-mails and a phone call
Light Your Fire (www.lightyourfire.com) 9 hours of CD's and a workbook  $119
Marriage Builders (www.marriagebuilders.com) 6 cd's, workbook, and a book  $195

Downloads and E-mail Series

The next type of online marriage counseling out there is downloadable e-books or articles and e-mail series.

You can learn a lot by reading an e-book. A well designed e-mail series can be quite thought provoking. And these are a bit more reasonable on the wallet, costing 30 or 40 bucks for a decently comprehensive article. (If you're thinking about going this direction, read our article on picking good marriage help books).

What an e-book can't do is SHOW you how couples in great marriages talk. Likewise, most e-books are read once, think about, then forget type affairs. What an e-book also can't do is really understand your unique situation and give you customized help and advice.

Example dowload/e-mail programs:

Program nameWhat you getWhat it costs
Simple Marriage (www.simplemarriage.net/products/combos) 3 downloadable e-book articles $34
Dr. Lee Baucom (www.savethemarriage.com) 1 e-book $47

Live Online Marriage Counseling

There are a variety of services that offer genuine online marriage counseling. Using either phone or a video-conference call you can talk with a live marriage counselor. In theory this seems great-a therapist who comes to your home.

By way of full disclosure, we haven't actually called any of these folks-there are just too many people out there. Our hunch is that some are great therapists who have really honed the art of delivering remote therapy. More likely, like marriage counselors in general, some are probably great and some lousy. Also, like marriage counselors in general, it is likely few and far between who actually TEACH the skills it takes to build a great marriage.

And, phone or video-call therapy is as expensive as going to someone's office with counselors charging upwards from $120/hour.

Example online marriage counseling options:

Program nameWhat you getWhat it costs
Live Person (www.liveperson.com/experts/professional-counseling/) Phone-based counseling $120 and up/hour

What’s left?

There is one final option if you’re in the market for online marriage counseling.

Introducing Power of Two Online.

Power of Two Online is the best all online way to improve your marriage. Like any online learning should be these days, Power of Two Online includes videos, games, worksheets, e-mail tips and reminders, text message challenges and all sorts of other materials that truly leverage what it means to be online.

At the same time, Power of Two Online is not a one-size-fits-all program. You will have access to your very own Power of Two coach. Our coach’s are real human beings who actually read your comments and send you personal, not canned, responses. This is critical for ensuring you really learn how to communicate with your spouse. Your coach will e-mail you reminders, review your work and respond to your questions.

Most important, Power of Two is a membership based service. You don’t need to shell out hundreds of dollars to see if it works. Just sign-up and get going. Not for you? No DVD’s to return. Just cancel with a quick click.

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I'm Dr. Abigail Hirsch. I lead the Power of Two coaching team. We are here to help you stop fighting and build trust, intimacy and love.

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Funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health Services, Administration for Children and Families, Grant 90-FE-0123. Any opinions, finding, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this material are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the United States Department of Health and Human Servies, Administration for Children and Families.