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What To Do When You Are Mad

Fender Bender

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The Basics...

How good are you at focusing on calming thoughts when you're mad?

This video shows an example of the kind of moment when these skills are particularly useful. Watch what happens when the couple exits. What thoughts tend to help them calm down? Which ones get them more heated?

Challenge: Next time you feel the temparature rising, see if you can label your thoughts and make a choice to focus on calming thoughts. See if you can let the heated ones go!