Learn the routine for making collaborative decisions through this light-hearted scene.
Watch our adventurers use their skills to make first contact with an alien race on the moon. Can you can identify all the win-win steps they use along the way?
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What is Shared Decision-Making?
Shared decision-making is a cooperative way of making plans together. With shard decision-making, input from both of you counts. So the plan of action you end up with pleases you both.
When is shared decision-making useful?
Any time that two people need a plan of action, shared decision-making is generally the best way to go.
Without these skills, one person may make plans without considering what the other person wants. This can create feelings of frustration, resentment or depression.
Without shared decision-making skills, making plans together can produce conflicts, arguments and fights.
By contrast, with these three steps of shared decision-making, situations that need shared a shared plan of action become positive moments of gratifying partnership.
When a dilemma comes up, people usually each suggest ideas of what to do. If these initial ideas are different, the challenge begins.
Tensions will rise if each person insists that their plan of action is the best. The initial ideas may become fixed positions, inviting an argument over who will give up and who will win.
Vera wants an immediate fight. Tom wants to challenge the Grangers to a formal duel. How will they settle this difference?
Concerns are thoughts and feelings. The why's that lead to action ideas. Switching from focusing on initial ideas for a plan of action to identifying the underlying concerns converts arguments into shared problem-solving.
To find concerns ask, "What is important to each of us in this situation?"
For shared problem-solving to succeed, both people need to take each others' concerns seriously. Your concerns immediately get added to my list, and mind to yours.
Vera's concern is speedy action in case the Granger Boys have "something up their sleeve." Tom, aware that he soon will be a father, wants to be sure their action is lawful.
A solution is an action plan.
A satifsying solution may be based on one of the initial ideas, or a new idea altogether.
A solution will feel fully satisfying, fully win-win, if the plan includes actions responsive to all the items on the "Our" list of underlying concerns.
Vera offers to shoot the rope that's holding up the chandelier so it will cascade down on the Granger Boys, giving Tom a chance to go get the sheriff. This plan gives them a way to take speedy action, Vera's concern, and at the same time to keep on the side of the law, Tom's concern. That's win-win!