Decision Making 103: Tom and Vera in the Mummy's Tomb

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The Basics...

Learn the routine for making collaborative decisions through this light-hearted scene.

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A Refresher

What is Shared Decision-Making?

Shared decision-making is a cooperative way of making plans together. With shard decision-making, input from both of you counts. So the plan of action you end up with pleases you both.

When is shared decision-making useful?

Any time that two people need a plan of action, shared decision-making is generally the best way to go.

Without these skills, one person may make plans without considering what the other person wants. This can create feelings of frustration, resentment or depression.

Without shared decision-making skills, making plans together can produce conflicts, arguments and fights.

By contrast, with these three steps of shared decision-making, situations that need shared a shared plan of action become positive moments of gratifying partnership.

The Steps

Initial Ideas

When a dilemma comes up, people usually each suggest ideas of what to do. If these initial ideas are different, the challenge begins.

Tensions will rise if each person insists that their plan of action is the best. The initial ideas may become fixed positions, inviting an argument over who will give up and who will win.

As soon as they hear the truck, Tom and Vera realize they need a plan of action. Vera proposes a booby-trap. Tom has a different idea. Get the treasure moved out quickly!

Underlying Concerns

Concerns are thoughts and feelings. The why's that lead to action ideas. Switching from focusing on initial ideas for a plan of action to identifying the underlying concerns converts arguments into shared problem-solving.

To find concerns ask, "What is important to each of us in this situation?"

For shared problem-solving to succeed, both people need to take each others' concerns seriously. Your concerns immediately get added to my list, and mind to yours.

Tom and Vera's main concern is to prevent the precious artifacts from getting damaged in a fight. They also want time to pack everything up carefully. That's shared decision-making!

Satisfying Solutions

A solution is an action plan.

A satisfying solution may be based on one of the initial ideas, or a new idea altogether.

A solution will feel fully satisfying, fully win-win, if the plan includes actions responsive to all the items on the "Our" list of underlying concerns.

Armed with understanding of their underlying concerns, Tom and Vera come up with a quick plan. If they pretend to be mummies they can scare off the robbers, and then have time to safely move and pack the artifacts. That's shared decision-making!

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