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Introduction to Win-Win Decision Making

The Basics...

It is often said that marriage is about sacrifice and compromise. That doesn't sound so great, does it? Luckily, it doesn't have to be the case! In this video Dr. Abigail Hirsch explains the fundamentals of win-win, collaborative decision making. Using these skills you and your partner will learn how to reach decisions in a way that addresses both of your needs and desires in a mutually satisfying way.

The Win-Win Waltz has only three simple steps (like the dance!):

  1. State Initial Positions
  2. Explore Underlying Concerns
  3. Create Mutually Satisfying Solutions

This process is easy to use in your daily life with little decisions like what to eat together or what movie to rent. The added bonus is that the more you practice it with the small stuff, the easier it will be to reach decisions on big issues like children and finances. In the end, you will be able to come to solutions that feel exciting and satisfying for both of you.