Delete "But"

Effective Listening

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The Basics...

This video gives an overview of the problems with using but as part of a response to what your spouse says. But is a little word with big consequences. It works to delete what your spouse has just said and sets you pulling against each other. You can work to eliminate but from your vocabulary with two simple steps:

  1. Start making a mental note whenever but sneaks into the conversation.
  2. Replace but with and or and, at the same time. Using and, at the same time lets you voice your concerns without cancelling out your partners point.
Using and will get you and your spouse pedaling in the same direction and set you on your way to being a super effective listener.

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